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While it is the deep, meaningful discussions that we crave, these talks often begin with a question, small talk or the simply the willingness to learn and listen. If you look across the table at your partner and don’t have any idea of what to say or how to begin, the following questions/requests can help you get started:

• Who is a friend from you past you wish was still in your life? What is it about this friend you miss? Why did you lose touch with this friend?
• If you could have one superpower, what would it be?
• What is your first memory from childhood?
• Describe the best birthday you ever had.
• What is one thing you have never done but have always wanted to do?
• Tell me about your most embarrassing moment.
• If you could go back and live in any time in history, what would that be? What about that time most interests you?
• Do you lean on facts or feelings when making decisions?
• If money were no object, where would you go on vacation?
• What is the grossest thing you have ever had to do?
• If you could bring back one person from history, who would you bring back and what would you ask him/her?
• If you could be one character from a movie, television show, book, who would you be? (Great question to ask when you are both watching television together.)
• If you could speak another language, what language would you choose?
• If you could play any instrument, what would it be?
• Tell me about the most adventurous thing you have ever done.
• If we stopped what we were doing right now to go have “fun” what would you choose to do?
• What did you learn new today?
• What was the nicest thing anyone ever did for you?
• What would you like people to remember about you after you die?
• What one place in our country would you like to visit? What one place in the world would you like to visit?
• What about getting older are you most afraid of?
• What was your favorite job? What was your least favorite?
• What do you admire most about your parents?
• Tell me about the last dream you remember.
• What fiction book/movie/television show do you wish were true?

–Regaining an Emotional Connection: 25 Conversation Starters - Sexual Health